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A few weeks ago I foud this interview to Simon Sinek in which he perfectly defines what a millennial is, the problems we have to adapt to the real world and the reasons why it is like this. Honestly, I haven’t grown up in the same environment as most of you guys did, but still, I feel Identified with some of the points Simon addresses in the interview. And I have come with one simple solution to our problems, Traveling.

How Traveling can help us to build our confidence back?

The first problem Simon Sinek says we millennials have, is low self-esteem, which he links to “failed parenting strategies”. Ever since we were born, we were told that we are special, that we can have whatever we want just because we want it, and our parents made sure that we had it.
One thing that really surprised me when I moved to the western world (I am originally Ethiopian and moved to Spain when I was nine) was that the kids in my class got presents from their parents just because they had passed a subject, it didn’t matter if the grade was a C or an A. If I did get a C on any subject by then I could say goodbye to all my privileges at home at least for a month.
And we could find thousands of examples like that one. That is bad parenting, don’t get it wrong, parents do that seeking the best for their children and to make them happy. But at the end of the day, when the kid has to walk by himself out in the real world, he finds out that a C is not enough, that he is not special, he is just like everyone else around, and all this happens in an instant and we don’t really know hoe to deal with it, and it builds up into a low self-esteem.

How traveling help us with this problem?

When we are traveling we are not self-absorbed in ourselves and our problems, we get to higher our sights and see different realities than the ones we are used to, we meet wonderful, special people that humble us, and make us see things differently. For example, when I am traveling to my country I can only think of how tiny I am compared to that 7-8 years old kid making some money by cleaning people’s shoes just to bring money home, to help his mom, to feed his little brothers, that makes me realise that I am not as half a man as he is, that I am lucky to have had this life, that there is a long way to go for me to earn the respect my family and friends, that sometimes I drown into a glass of water and fail to see the bigger picture. That keeps me moving, working.
Knowing that there are different realities out there makes you see that every day you wake up and go do whatever it is that you are doing, you are choosing to do exactly that, that you are the manager of your time and your life. This is how self-confidence is built.

How Traveling can help us to deal with stress in a much healthier way

In the video, Simon Sinek defines the second big handicap we millennials have, and that is the fact that we don’t have the appropriate mechanisms to deal with stress. Stress is the major source of lots of health problems as well as addictions.




Most addictions are produced when we are still teenagers, that is a stage of life in which we suffer a lot of stress, it is the stage when we say “hello” to the world for the first time standing on our own feet. And we have to be accepted for our fellows and we suffer a lot of insecurities and anxieties. That lead us to stress and the search fo dopamine to handle that stress, when we drink alcohol, for instance, that frees some dopamine into our brain and makes us feel better, happier, we forget about our problems for a moment, and when we repeat that process over and over again is when the addiction is produced. Now, alcohol is not the only substance that frees dopamine into our brains, text notifications in our phones can produce it too, and that is why there can be cases in which we get addicted to our smartphones.




Smartphones could be considered as our alcohol, our way to deal with stress. When we are in a conference room surrounded by a bunch of people, we feel that social anxiety that it produces us and take the easy road and stare at our phones instead of talking to each other, this way we miss the opportunities to engage with other people. Just remember all those times when you got to sit beside the girl or the boy you like, you get nervous, avoid eye contact and check your Instagram feed, rally knowing that it is not what you should be doing, five minutes later he/she goes away, you missed that opportunity to engage with that person.

How traveling help us with this problem?

First of all, we all know how traveling can be a great way to get away from everything that stresses us and chill out a little bit. But it’s not only about the time we are actually traveling but the effect that it has in the long term. Traveling can help us tackle the problem from the root.




When we are on the road, in another city, another country, there are lots of moments when we don’t even have connection to the internet, so we are forced to get over our social anxiety and actually talk to other people, and that teaches our brain that there is nothing wrong about interacting with other people. We also expose ourselves to a lot of different situations, we address unusual problems that we have to solve by ourselves, and we learn how not to drown in a glass of water and how to deal with stress.


How Traveling can help us to build our confidence patience

The third problem Simon states we millennials have to deal with is Impatience. We live in the world of instant gratification, we want to watch a movie? we just need a browser or our phones, we want to flirt with someone? just swipe right. All this technological advancement we were exposed to from a very young age, plus, having our parents do everything for us, has taught us that just by wishing we can have whatever we want.

How traveling help us with this problem?

Do you want to visit the most exotic and beautiful lands? You are gonna have to travel for 12+ hours, it requires the traveling of very long distances to get there, it is exhausting, but the prize at the end of it is totally worth it. Do you want the most amazing views of the place? You are gonna have to hike the biggest mountains or walk the highest hills of the city.

Travelling can really teach us that we have to sweat hard to get the best of what we want.





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